Sunday, December 28, 2014

More Than a Walk in the Park

We would have gotten up early if not for staying up very late the night before.  But I was glad we spent the evening the way we did, since it was in the great company of the "neighborhood" couples and a fine assortment of fabulous calories.

The trip to the Rochester Public Market was necessitated by the markups that make Wegman's supermarkets so successful.  We obtained the necessary yams and scallions and more for a fraction of what they would have cost in the warmth under the fluorescent lights.  And we had the best breakfast sandwiches ever, right off the grill at Scott's II diner shack.

I chose Canadian Bacon.


"Let's take a walk in one of the parks afterward," Mary had previously proposed, so we were properly attired.  On the spur of the moment, we decided to take in Highland Park. which is a little less crowded in December than during the May Lilac Festival.  

The reservoir at Highland Park on a day
during the Lilac Festival.

And perhaps the park is less beautiful, but Frederick Law Olmsted's engineering of the land remains appealing even in the snow-tinged cold.  But we could only imagine the fragrances.

We walked along the rolling paths below the reservoir and up through the rhododendrons to the empty space where the Children's Pavilion, pinnacle of the park, once stood.  It was removed in the 60's.  It needs to be rebuilt to bring the park back to its proper grandeur, and to restore the fabulous views that it once provided.  I wonder what material and structural changes would need to be made so that the ever-present miscreants will have difficulty destroying it.



Even without the height provided by the three-story pavilion, the views are appealing.  Shrouded with ice, the reservoir is not without charm.



As we walked back to the car, we smiled at the workmanship in the valley below the street.  A foot-trodden peace sign appeared on the floor of the gully, the result of concerted efforts by at least one unseen boot-clad artist.



My mother has always loved going to this peaceful park.  She even duplicated it in some small fashion with the numerous lilacs in her back yard.  It is difficult now, even when it is warm, since the uneven footing and changes in altitude makes the use of her walker impossible.  And the logistics of wheelchair use are not an incentive for family outings.

But she still makes some efforts to have a good quality of life, even though aid is constantly necessary.  The previous day, we had watched and listened as Mom sang Christmas carols in the choir at her residence.  She was afraid she wouldn't remember the words, and since her eyesight has failed, she has great difficulty even finding the proper page in the songbook.

After the concert, I let her know she did fine.  "I watched, Mom.  I thought you did pretty well with the words."

"Half the time I was just moving my mouth without singing."

I laughed.  "No one knew.  You did a good job."

It was a fine event, and nice to see Mom rally for her performance.  But one phrase stuck in my head. While she sang Frosty the Snowman, of all songs, I unintentionally reinterpreted the lyrics.

"...let's have some fun, before I melt away."

Indeed.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

What the Maid of Honor Said

Molly has been the best friend of my daughter, Katie, since the two of them were wee lasses.  She is one of my favorite storytellers.  Here are some she told at Katie and Scott's wedding.

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Molly delivering the Maid of Honor speech.
Scott!  Pay attention!


Hi, Everyone.  Thank you all so much for coming and being part of such a special day in Katie and Scott's lives.  I am Molly, and I am honored to be here as Katie's Maid of Honor.  I would like to thank Mary and Randy for hosting this wonderful event.

Katie and I have been best friends for over 25 years.  It all began one day on Ridgemont Drive, when a rambunctious, tree-climbing, speed-your-bike-down-the-street kind of girl said to another, more-cautious, reserved, I'll-stand-down-here-while-you-climb kind of girl, "Hey, want to be my best friend?"  

I said, "Sure!"  It amazes me to this day that with that one simple question, our path to a wonderful friendship began.

Waiting for the bus on the first day of first grade.

We have spent many summer days here at Keuka Lake.  Some of my best memories were spent here with Katie and the Fredlunds, and I've always viewed them as an extension of my own family.  

Katie always knew that someday she would love to get married at Esperanza, she just didn't know to who.  Or as English majors would say, "...to whom."
Not Keuka Lake, but still having fun near the water.

One day, as we were catching up on the phone, Katie started to tell me of a guy named Scott that she had met through mutual friends while studying at Bowling Green.  Over the next few months, Scott's name began to come up more and more in our conversations.  I could hear in her voice that he was someone special, and had the sense that she had met her match.

Clowning around one October.


Katie has always been very strong, independent and someone who knows herself very well, which is one of the things I admire about her most.  But Katie has a soft side, too.  She is a beautiful person in and out, kind and caring.  To this day I still have the card she made for me in the 4th grade, when I was home sick from school that read, "I hope you feel better.  I missed you today."  That card still means the world to me today, and shows from a young age what a caring person she is.

A little older than 4th grade.
Cue the song, "Ya Got To Have Friends..."

Molly enthralls the crowd.


Scott may not remember this, but one night while he was telling the Fredlund family and me about a book he read, he used a word that I did not know, because I don't know as many words as Katie and Scott.  Like one of his students, I raised my hand.  He looked at me and said, "Yes?" 

"Scott, I don't know what that word means."  Without judgement, he simply explained what the word meant.  At that time, I thought, "What a patient and kind person he is"...the kind of person I have always hoped my best friend would find.

One chapter ends.  The next begins.
But always the best of friends.


What I love about Scott and Katie is that they are their true selves around each other.  They are able to be independent of one another while being supportive of their goals in life, even if that means making sacrifices.  Long distance relationships are not always easy, but I always hear of all the fun they have had...Making the time to travel to see each other, or meet up to visit friends or family.  They're always sharing in a new adventure together.  [Editor's note: Katie is a Professor of English at Indiana State University while Scott is finishing his PhD at the University of Florida.]

Well said, Molly!


Please join in as we raise a glass to Katie and Scott.

For your future together, I wish you happiness, laughter, and lots of love.  I love you both!





[Images provided by Vicky Fredlund-Feathers, John Larkin, and scans of an ancient means of chemically capturing light.  Imagine that!]